God’s order is perfect. The marriage He has instituted is His glory revealed. The husband leads as the authority who cares and nourishes his family with his strength and provision. The wife submits herself under his godly lead in response to his headship. The children are in a place of protection as they are under the blessing of God.
With all of God’s creation, which is good is its counterpart and Satan, and a perversion to what is true. So the marriage union is not immune to his cunning.
I believe that when a marriage/family unit is out of order, or where one or both practice sin –, to put it bluntly, the door has been opened for all ‘hell to break loose.’
Anything that God sanctifies, Satan will attempt to defile. Why? Because there is power and Godly authority against him in such things that God blesses. Especially so when the union involves the saints of God.
Pornography has been the most significant, most destructive creation Satan has launched to ruin marriages and break down families. When a spouse engages with it, by default, the other innocent member is partaker of the sin because he sins against his own body (the marriage unit). Though it may not be a physical act it is no less a spiritual act and has joined him and his wife to Baal – the god of this world. The well, so to speak, has been poisoned.
The doors have been opened for evil to work and the reason many suffer mentally and physically through various illnesses, conditions, diseases, and syndromes of all kinds. Satan legally infiltrated into the unsuspecting spouse’s life to sow his seeds of corruption through the one who habitually practices sin. In the case of adultery – the marriage bed becomes defiled. Anything defiled is no longer sanctified and will attract evil.
The husband has the authority to (spiritually) wash his wife with the Word. His prayers are heard by God when he is in Christ and entirely devoted to him. He is the covering over his wife and family that goes beyond the physical. He has the power to bless and curse.
I go further now, into a controversial territory where many will debate and pray that this group would indulge me to hear what I am saying. The subject is divorce and remarriage. A plague has overtaken many because they walk in adultery by believing that they can divorce and be remarried, contrary to what the scriptures tell us.
So, in this, Satan has power over them.
Godly men and women who seek the Lord and His Word included. Things in their lives don’t seem to go away or what they have to deal with because it results from the sin of adultery. They are ‘cast into a sickbed.’ They have prayed about it, gone to ‘healing and deliverance’ meetings, and yet they continue to suffer. They may be ministers of God and excellent teachers and preachers of the Word but are blinded in this one area. Sin will blind us. They nevertheless are under oppression; how ever it may manifest because it has a right to be there by the sin of adultery. They have a covenant spouse, or married to one who is still alive – and in God’s eyes, is their husband/wife – while they sleep with the one they have married against the Word of God.
I have said a great deal here that is generally unspoken and understand how it may be too much to take in, but I ask you not to reject entirely. I will be the first to admit I have inferior communication skills and do not explain this as it deserves! I have come to this conclusion by my own experience of having my eyes opened before the Word of God into this very real spiritual realm.
The implications for this is far-reaching and many are affected without knowing if what I have discovered is true. Individuals who have been divorced, yet are not remarried but the other spouse is. The children are caught in the crossfire. No wonder God has said:
“For the Lord God of Israel says
That He hates divorce,
For it covers one’s garment with violence,”
Says the Lord of hosts.
“Therefore take heed to your spirit,
That you do not deal treacherously.” Mal 2:16
While I wish not to debate the subject of adultery and remarriage, I invite anyone who would like to hear more about how we can be subject to evil by our covenant spouse’s unconfessed sin and how to be freed from this stronghold – to contact me. Having said this, the Lord Himself has shown me through His word how we are to deal with this subject and its power in our lives, and would encourage you to seek Him to reveal His answer to you. We are blessed with the Holy Spirit so He can lead us into all truth – Amen!
Applicable scriptural references:
Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
Or do you not know, brethren (for I speak to those who know the law), that the law has dominion over a man as long as he lives? For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man.
But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience. Therefore do not be partakers with them.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the Word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said:
1 Cor 6:15-20
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.
Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.
1 Cor 7:10-13
Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him.
1 Peter 3:7
Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.
And I gave her time to repent of her sexual immorality, and she did not repent. Indeed I will cast her into a sickbed, and those who commit adultery with her into great tribulation, unless they repent of their deeds. I will kill her children with death, and all the churches shall know that I am He who searches the minds and hearts. And I will give to each one of you according to your works.