Satan takes what is sacred and turns it into the profane. The beauty and splendor of the sexual union that God has created between a man and a woman is desecrated in the moment that the use of pornography enters in a marriage. As with all sin, it does not sustain but there is a compulsion for more, always more. A man is to leave his mother and father and join together with his wife so they become one flesh. This union is more than physical, it is the picture of the Church; Jesus, the groom and believers in Christ who follow after Him His Bride. There is the joining together and we become one flesh into His Body. His love flows into us and we receive His life and are able to walk in all His instruction. When a husband joins to another other than his wife, to lust after them in the viewing of pornography it is like he dis-joints from his own body and is playing with the devil’s fire where he does not even realize he is getting burned. His God given sexual desires and sensitivities become dulled and even numbed all together from desiring the natural sexual union with his own wife. With each drop he drinks of this sinful and evil poison he is destroying the sacred between them. Each image he stores in his mind has power and will only rob them of what God has intended. It is like a corrosive battery acid that eats away from them. The intensity and concentration level that pornography supplies short circuits what was once pleasing and pleasurable. The foolish man is driven now by his appetites Satan has taught him and he commits adultery against her in his lust dishonoring her sacred sexual beauty. What is evil he treats as good and what is good he treats as evil. The marriage bed is defiled, though he may never physically touch any woman he harbors thousands of women in his mind and shares his bed with all of them. Though it may all be done in secrecy and he thinks that no harm is being done he is setting fire to what is most precious and dear. He has brought violence against the one he says he loves. He must wake up and begin to fight for her and that means he must lay down his life for her, no longer living to serve his evil lusts – a battle that must be fought and won in order to save what has been lost. It may be the toughest battle of his life but with God, he will fight and win it.
Jesus is our example as how a man treats his wife for He gave his life for us and is diligent to keep us clean and counts us as precious in His sight. He has eyes for no other and as we join with Him in union our love only grows and deepens. His passion for us draws us to Himself and we enjoy intimacy with one another, in fact we only crave for more of His love. He honors and loves us and we respect Him; Ephes 5:22-33
Drink water from your own cistern,
And running water from your own well.
16 Should your fountains be dispersed abroad,
Streams of water in the streets?
17 Let them be only your own,
And not for strangers with you.
18 Let your fountain be blessed,
And rejoice with the wife of your youth.
19 As a loving deer and a graceful doe,
Let her breasts satisfy you at all times;
And always be enraptured with her love. Prov 5:15-19